well ok then.

stuff i'm thinking. if it interests you too, that's cool.

The start.

We have spent the better part of four years getting to the place where we are now - almost done with our debt (except a mortgage), with the income to have one of us stay at home and the other make enough to support the family, one kiddo already here and a second on the way. There’s a lot that we have to be grateful for, and a lot of reasons why we are where we are (and why we’re not further ahead).

What I want to do is start outlining what’s worked for us and what hasn’t, and why we are doing what we are doing. I’m looking for a place where we can start a discussion, or just vent about our progress or lack thereof.

Since I don’t really have a specific place or name for it yet, I’ve just taken to calling it our control project. I’m not sure if this will be come The Control Project or something different, but since I have more interest in getting started and calling it something later, that’s what I’m doing here. Maybe it just stays here and grows from this blog or whatever, I’m not sure.

What I AM sure of, though, is that if I wait until we have the perfect name and plan for it, it’ll never happen. And the best things start with a single step, so…here we go.


shopping our way through the apocalypse. it will all be fine as long as there’s retail therapy. buy to anesthetize, to forget.

except, i can’t.


The year we take our lives back.

black sheep.

we had a new head of the department start on monday. generally you’d think this would be a good thing, but when you’re not the minority diversity superstar candidate, you’re just the black sheep, no matter what you’ve done in the past. it doesn’t matter that you have a graduate degree or a certification…what matters most is the color of your skin or your gender or your sexual orientation or all of the above, if you’re into that sort of thing.

its pretty sad, actually.

so, with that, i think it’s time to move along.

just remember: all animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others.

ghost of stephen foster

ships were made for sinking, whiskey made for drinking,

if we were made of cellophane we’d all get drunk much faster!

what’s the point?


iPad take 3

There’s a long story behind take 3, but suffice to say that it’s mostly because of work. And the kiddo. And LMD’s work. And a bunch of other things that have nothing to do with just having fun. Riiiight.

big hat, no cattle

been to london and back recently and that’s about all i have to say. quit talking about it and start doing it, already.

the professor speaks

love this article by warren buffet. as always he lays out his case for investing in just the most clear and concise (and funny) way possible.

i need a new yardstick.

came across this article published in the HBR a while back. apparently he’s coming out with a book-length discussion on this abstract later this year.

i particularly liked this:

One of the theories that gives great insight on the first question—how to be sure we find happiness in our careers—is from Frederick Herzberg, who asserts that the powerful motivator in our lives isn’t money; it’s the opportunity to learn, grow in responsibilities, contribute to others, and be recognized for achievements. I tell the students about a vision of sorts I had while I was running the company I founded before becoming an academic. In my mind’s eye I saw one of my managers leave for work one morning with a relatively strong level of self-esteem. Then I pictured her driving home to her family 10 hours later, feeling unappreciated, frustrated, underutilized, and demeaned. I imagined how profoundly her lowered self-esteem affected the way she interacted with her children. The vision in my mind then fast-forwarded to another day, when she drove home with greater self-esteem—feeling that she had learned a lot, been recognized for achieving valuable things, and played a significant role in the success of some important initiatives. I then imagined how positively that affected her as a spouse and a parent. My conclusion: Management is the most noble of professions if it’s practiced well. No other occupation offers as many ways to help others learn and grow, take responsibility and be recognized for achievement, and contribute to the success of a team. More and more MBA students come to school thinking that a career in business means buying, selling, and investing in companies. That’s unfortunate. Doing deals doesn’t yield the deep rewards that come from building up people.

I want students to leave my classroom knowing that.

link to the entire article is here.